'Truth is every one's gonna hurt you, you just have to find out the ones worth suffering for.' - Bob Marley
I read this today and it keeps echoing in my mind. I have been questioning steps I have taken in my approach to relationships both now and historically. I realize the older I get, the more I relate in a fear based fashion.
However I truly believe at this moment that 'There is no fear in love but Perfect love casteth out fear' - John 4:18.
With this in mind, I will find the courage to relate through love and not fear.
Why is it so hard to be more trusting but wise? Open hearted, even if doing so with caution? How liberating would it be to just go forth knowing that you have nothing to fear but fear itself? I am not suggesting to walk blindly. Eyes wide shut. Be smart and listen to yourself. If something tells you the steps you are taking are not right, they are probably not. Go to your inner sanctum, and if the vibes are not consistent with what you feel they should be - walk. However do not always tread in fear and expecting it not to be right. Pure and simple, if it doesn't work it was not meant to. Sometimes we need to fail at something to be sure it was not meant to be.
Additionally, never give up, just do better next time. I am applying this to my new Business relationships. Instead of thinking they have an agenda that is untoward, I am thinking like myself, they are merely keen for new, interesting and profitable business opportunities.
As with romantic relationships, bear in mind we only have one chance at life. Therefore we should be open to letting go and giving our all to loved ones, as opposed to not loving enough so as to protect ourselves. As like Bob insinuated we are going to get hurt at some point regardless, we simply cannot avoid it. With that in mind is it not better to experience loving with every ounce of your being and do so with good intentions and expectations? You usually get what you expect. Look on the brighter side.
'In the end we only regret chances we didn't take, the relationships we were scared to have and the decisions we waited too long to make. There comes a time in your life when you realise who matters, who doesn't, who never did and who always will.' - Anon.
Thus, in the challenging realm of relating to others, fear not rejection, or being rebuked. Fear not giving all you have got. Fear not taking risks to get and give the love you want and need (bearing in mind the feelings of others too ).
Walk forward with love and good intentions. Limit the concerns about things not going to plan and as a consequence your feelings getting hurt.
The strongest oak of the forest is not the one that is protected from the storm and hidden from the sun. It's the one that stands in the open where it is compelled to struggle for its existence against the winds and rains and the scorching sun. - napoleon hill
Go for it! Just go for it!