Monday, 24 October 2011
Give Yourself A Break!
Why is it that our worst critics are ourselves? We beat down on ourself for everything we can imagine. My hair is too short, my nose is crooked, we are too short, fat, skinny and tall. We have no breasts, big flappy ears, our teeth stick out or our feet are too small. My voice is too high, my chin is too wide, my tummy is not as flat as a virgin bride....
That was my attempt at poetry but suffice to say, it is impossible to be perfect all of the time. Heck many people never achieve it some of the time. Love yourself. Do not always look for things to complain about. Give yourself a break!
It is not just the physical things that we give ourself a hard time about either. The fact that we don't possess psychic powers enabling us to predict the future also causes us to be annoyed right?
None of us know exactly how things will pan out, therefore the mysteries of life are bound to have us bewildered at times. However there are some that want to control every inch of their being and their futures. Their plans have not come to fruition, and as a result they suffer from anger frustration and even self hatred. Do you ever thank your lucky stars that a certain thing did not happen the way you planned?
Whenever I experience a disappointment I remind myself that it is for the best, as 9 times out of 10 it is. It is a lesson learnt, or a reminder to appreciate things more. It is a rescue from a negative circumstance or person. There is always a good reason why plans do not work out. We are so busy being traumatized that we do not have the foresight to see this. Instead we toil and tussle with ourselves, beat ourselves up and engulf ourselves in a state of depression. Why? It does not make sense. As opposed to choosing to be embroiled in self pity it often helps to make good of the so-called bad situation. If you made a mistake, make it right. Do something about it if you can. If not then let it be.
I too have been guilty of self inflicted fury. For sure it is not so easy to just be cool when hit with disappointment or despair. In which case I suggest you simply take timeout, give yourself a moment. Be at peace with who you are, where you are, and where you eventually will be in time. Stop constantly exerting your mind, body and soul with the whys and wherefores of life. Your looks, your future, the what ifs and what will be.
You are who you are, Period! It is what it is, period! You can change the cosmetics but you are you. Accept this and how your life will evolve. It will make for such a peaceful inner you. By all means contribute to your future, don't sit idly expecting everything to fall on your lap as if by magic (unless you have asked and it is given - see post for details), but please - Give yourself a break!
Stop the constant battle with self. Let your life story unfold and while it does have fun. Be quiet, relax and chill out! Look in the mirror and say 'I love what I see looking back at me.' As Sir Thomas Browne said 'How shall we expect charity towards others, when we are uncharitable to ourselves?'
Give yourself a break! 'Acceptance and go with your flow.' ~ Scr1be (that's me - just in case).